March 7, 2011 by  
Filed under Law of Attraction, Overcoming Fear

“If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we are not really living. Growth demands a temporary surrender of security.”  ~ Gail Sheehy

Now to be honest, if you ask me straight out – “Steph, are you a fan of change?” My FIRST answer is gonna be “NOOOOO!” . . . . I like things steady and easy and relatively consistent.

However, my INITIAL first thoughts about change contain limiting beliefs that aren’t particularly useful in manifesting some of my heart’s desires! If there are still things on your Dream Wish List, then you probably have some limiting beliefs also – otherwise – according to quantum physics and the Law of Attraction — you’d already have everything on your list (and so would I)!

Bummer right?

But not really!

Because, you have the option of creating new beliefs that support growth and support change without kicking in your fight/flight FEAR response! Did you know that?

One of our primal requirements is for security. We are simply wired that way. It’s NOT a bad thing. You just have to know how to work with it and not let it become your prison. When we hold on too tightly to the need to feel secure, as the quote above says, we cannot grow – and growth equals change and vice versa.

But when we become willing to TEMPORARILY surrender our need for security – in order to create and manifest some of that stuff on our Dream List – then we open ourselves up to the Power of the Universe to assist us in creating NEW beliefs, new thoughts and here’s the most important piece . . . new INSPIRED ACTIONS . . . which then result in the new car, the new relationship, the extra bucks in the bank or whatever it is that we’ve been saying we want.

I made a huge personal, self-growth discovery a couple of weeks ago when I “got” during meditation that the predominant belief/thought running my life for several years now has been “Don’t Rock My Boat! I want a smooooooooooooth, ezzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz, ride! Thank you very much!”

As I described it to one of my mentors – I’d been sailing turbulent seas in a rickety boat most of my life and now I’ve chartered a course on nice, calm waters in a relatively comfortable, sturdy little ship and . .


Once I recognized that belief, I looked back over the past few years and realized I had actually made a conscious decision to create a SMOOTH RIDE and get rid of all the turbulence in my life. And over the past 6 years, I’ve proceeded to do just that! I healed and/or released challenging relationships, I changed careers, I even moved from one country to another – not to mention 3 house moves!

So the good news is that I proved to myself that I can create EXACTLY what I want.

The bad news (but really the even BETTER news) is that now I have to temporarily surrender that security if I want some of the new things on MY Dream List – like a new husband and a more secure income.

If I don’t release my stronghold on “Don’t Rock My Boat” I cannot create NEW movement in my life – aka “change”. So even though “change” isn’t really one of my most favorite words, much less most favorite things to do, I am in the process of becoming willing to create new beliefs so that I will take new actions which will, in turn, ultimately manifest my new heart’s desires!

This week, take a few minutes and ask yourself what you are holding onto that you don’t want to change. Then ask yourself ala Dr. Phil – “How’s that working for you?”

This is your opportunity to determine whether your current beliefs (which may now be past iheir “sell-by” date) are contradicting something else you DO want on your Dream List?

Reclaim your Inner Power by at least entertaining the thought of opening your mind to new beliefs and new possibilities! You are in charge of this ride we call Life! Ask the Universe for exactly what you want/need, open your heart and your mind, and create the life you REALLY want and so richly deserve!!!!!

Rainbow Blessings!

P.S. As always, I’m here to help you identify the thoughts and actions that are keeping you from what you really want! I invite you to allow change to be easier for you by booking a clarity session with me now. Email me and I will send you a special link for 10% off!

P.P.S.  Thanks to the lovely people at The Institute of HeartMath for the  quote and photo!

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