February 23, 2011 by  
Filed under AHA Moments, Relationships

I’ve been studying Katherine Woodward Thomas’ amazing book CALLING IN THE ONE for a couple of months  and just had another AHA moment while reading the chapter “On Being A YES to Love”.

For over a year now, I’ve been saying a wanted a new romantic relationship – well to be honest  — what I was saying was “I WANT A NEW HUSBAND.”  I told my closest friends I was NOT interested in “dating”, I just wanted a new husband!  In my mind, I figured I could “intend him” ala Law of Attraction and avoid all the troublesome details like meeting him, getting to know him, etc.!  As I write this paragraph,  I see how funny my thinking was – but I held onto that idea for nearly a year until I began reading Ms. Thomas’ book late last fall.

One of the questions to journal on in this  chapter was about risk-taking regarding love.  The specific question that “got me” was:

By avoiding doing this, I’m protecting  ____________ .

Of course the ego kicked in first trying to insist that I wasn’t avoiding ANYTHING!  LOL!  Of COURSE I’m avoiding SOMEthing because otherwise I’d have the new husband already!

And then I sat with it . . . and let Spirit speak . . . and I recognized my answer  . . .

By avoiding doing this,  I’ve been protecting myself from being on an emotional roller coaster – I don’t want my boat rocked!

I have/had a perception that a new relationship – or even the baby steps to put myself in a position to begin one  . . . would mean that I have to give up my emotional (relatively peaceful) status quo and I am/was PATENTLY UNWILLING to do so!

Even as I write this, I’m still not 100% convinced that I’m willing – but at least now I’ve uncovered the hidden belief – and that means – I have the opportunity to change it!  And you do too!  Any time we are able to face our limiting beliefs head on – we have already made the first step towards creating a more empowering belief!  YAY!!!

One of the first things I recognized once I’d uncovered this limiting belief, is that it is based ON THE PAST!   Most of our limiting beliefs ARE you know!  It’s part of the ego’s job to keep us safe and it uses the information from our HISTORY to concoct stories that support its position.  In my case (and maybe in yours?) it looked at the turbulence in my marriage, then it went back to the rocky relationships before that and it concluded that anything in my future would HAVE TO HAVE THE SAME RESULTS!!!!



My Divine Spirit knows that my past does NOT have to negatively impact  my future.  In fact, my Divine Spirit and the Law of Attraction know that all throughout my past history I was actually sending “rockets of desire” about my ideal relationship and according to Abraham – I have quite a nice little swirling vortex of MAGNIFICENT possibilities well within my reach – RIGHT NOW!!!!

Of course, to manifest that into physical reality, it means I have to give up my story about “how hard” relationships have been for me . . . and “how much work” they are.

Are you telling yourself a similar story?  Are you basing it on history?  Are you allowing your ego to run the show?

If you answered YES to any of those questions – that’s GREAT!  It means you are ready to take a risk – to risk CHANGING YOUR BELIEFS . . . and you know what the BEST NEWS is about that?  It means you are also willing to HAVE A DIFFERENT OUTCOME!!!!!

It is only when we change our beliefs that we create different actions and send out the corresponding different vibes that allow our hearts’ desires to be manifested!  We have to think different thoughts and take different actions in order to create different results!!!

What does that mean for me?

To be honest . . . I’m not entirely sure yet but I’ll keep you posted!

What I AM sure of though is that I am no longer in the dark about what I’ve been believing about having a new relationship.

I’ve opened the door and I’ve asked Spirit to show me a NEW way.

That’s a pretty cool baby step for all of us.

Are you ready to take a baby step towards YOUR heart’s desires?  If I can help, please let me know!


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