TODAY’S INNER POWER TIP: If Mother’s Day stirs up strong “negative” images and emotions for you — please consider this: even if your relationship with your birth mother wouldn’t make good copy for a classic Hallmark greeting card – you still have the choice to be grateful to her for being the portal through which you entered THIS physical reality, which was your Divine Spirit’s choice and powerful desire. You can also choose to be grateful for the qualities of strength, courage and perhaps even compassion and forgiveness you have developed via that relationship. Blessings abound when you change your perspective! (Appreciation to Rev. Michael Beckwith for the “portal” reminder!)
I’ve been studying Katherine Woodward Thomas’ amazing book CALLING IN THE ONE for a couple of months and just had another AHA moment while reading the chapter “On Being A YES to Love”.
For over a year now, I’ve been saying a wanted a new romantic relationship – well to be honest — what I was saying was “I WANT A NEW HUSBAND.” I told my closest friends I was NOT interested in “dating”, I just wanted a new husband! In my mind, I figured I could “intend him” ala Law of Attraction and avoid all the troublesome details like meeting him, getting to know him, etc.! As I write this paragraph, I see how funny my thinking was – but I held onto that idea for nearly a year until I began reading Ms. Thomas’ book late last fall.
One of the questions to journal on in this chapter was about risk-taking regarding love. The specific question that “got me” was:
By avoiding doing this, I’m protecting ____________ .
Of course the ego kicked in first trying to insist that I wasn’t avoiding ANYTHING! LOL! Of COURSE I’m avoiding SOMEthing because otherwise I’d have the new husband already!
And then I sat with it . . . and let Spirit speak . . . and I recognized my answer . . .
By avoiding doing this, I’ve been protecting myself from being on an emotional roller coaster – I don’t want my boat rocked!
I have/had a perception that a new relationship – or even the baby steps to put myself in a position to begin one . . . would mean that I have to give up my emotional (relatively peaceful) status quo and I am/was PATENTLY UNWILLING to do so!
Even as I write this, I’m still not 100% convinced that I’m willing – but at least now I’ve uncovered the hidden belief – and that means – I have the opportunity to change it! And you do too! Any time we are able to face our limiting beliefs head on – we have already made the first step towards creating a more empowering belief! YAY!!!
One of the first things I recognized once I’d uncovered this limiting belief, is that it is based ON THE PAST! Most of our limiting beliefs ARE you know! It’s part of the ego’s job to keep us safe and it uses the information from our HISTORY to concoct stories that support its position. In my case (and maybe in yours?) it looked at the turbulence in my marriage, then it went back to the rocky relationships before that and it concluded that anything in my future would HAVE TO HAVE THE SAME RESULTS!!!!
RUBBISH!!! POPPYCOCK!!! LIES I TELL YOU!!! LIES!!!!!!
My Divine Spirit knows that my past does NOT have to negatively impact my future. In fact, my Divine Spirit and the Law of Attraction know that all throughout my past history I was actually sending “rockets of desire” about my ideal relationship and according to Abraham – I have quite a nice little swirling vortex of MAGNIFICENT possibilities well within my reach – RIGHT NOW!!!!
Of course, to manifest that into physical reality, it means I have to give up my story about “how hard” relationships have been for me . . . and “how much work” they are.
Are you telling yourself a similar story? Are you basing it on history? Are you allowing your ego to run the show?
If you answered YES to any of those questions – that’s GREAT! It means you are ready to take a risk – to risk CHANGING YOUR BELIEFS . . . and you know what the BEST NEWS is about that? It means you are also willing to HAVE A DIFFERENT OUTCOME!!!!!
It is only when we change our beliefs that we create different actions and send out the corresponding different vibes that allow our hearts’ desires to be manifested! We have to think different thoughts and take different actions in order to create different results!!!
What does that mean for me?
To be honest . . . I’m not entirely sure yet but I’ll keep you posted!
What I AM sure of though is that I am no longer in the dark about what I’ve been believing about having a new relationship.
I’ve opened the door and I’ve asked Spirit to show me a NEW way.
That’s a pretty cool baby step for all of us.
Are you ready to take a baby step towards YOUR heart’s desires? If I can help, please let me know!
My ex remarried this past weekend. I knew it was going to happen, we have had a cordial and amicable divorce and in fact, I helped my 23-yr old daughter prepare to attend the event. So it wasn’t new news. And, I had also arranged to spend Saturday evening with some of my sacred sisters, participating in a Native American Fire Releasing Ceremony – giving me the IDEAL opportunity to let the past go (again) and focus on my gratitude and intention for the future.
And that went very well.
And Sunday I woke up feeling quite bright and lighter and pleased with myself.
And then, late Sunday evening, while hanging out on Facebook, I noticed a new item in my NewsFeed. My ex had changed his relationship status from “in a relationship” to “MARRIED.” And despite ALL the work I’ve done processing the divorce since we first decided to split in January 2009, seeing that silly status change hit me like a ton of bricks.
This morning, I woke up still thinking about it. As I went for my morning swim I asked my Guides and Angels to help me see this all differently. I did NOT want to play “the victim” – because I am NOT a victim. I know I co-created everything that led up to our decision to split. I did NOT want to play the martyr either. While some of the circumstances of our breakup could be woven into a martyr scenario – again, I cannot be a martyr if I take responsibility for co-creating the situation and circumstances.
So during my swim, I did a lot of HoOPonoPono (a Hawaiian forgiveness process) that I chanted while I swam. I felt a little better afterwards but still not as peaceful as I would ideally like.
When I got home, I checked my emails. I subscribe to many inspirational messages and one of my favorite is from Dyan Garris, Voice of the Angels. Believing in Divine Synchronicities as I do, I was not surprised to find the message below in my Inbox this morning.
Daily Channeled Message
A challenge for today – for any day, really – is to be the love. Examine where you give your power away and for what reasons. When you find yourself engaging in whatever that you don’t want to be engaging in, stop for a minute, take a deep breath and pull yourself back into the love. No matter who or what is pushing the button, try to realize that you don’t have to open the door, nor do you have to sit there and allow button pushing unless you really want to. It’s a choice for both the pusher and the pushee. Realize that you are simply living whatever it is you’ve created. That’s all. It’s very simple. Taking responsibility for perhaps inviting someone to push the button is a huge step forward. Knowing that people and things happen for a reason, and that reason is to teach you something about love, can be a very valuable piece of information. So instead of allowing someone or something to push you today, pull back into center instead. Cozy and safe, and maybe you can’t even hear the button being pushed from in there.
Pretty perfect eh?
I was asking to stay focused on the fact I ALWAYS have a choice how I FEEL. It is always my choice to change my perception. It is always my choice to hold onto my power or to give it away.
Dyan reminded me about BEING THE LOVE. I choose that as part of my mission and purpose for being here on the planet at this time. I am a Lightworker. I bring light and love where there is darkness. That’s my job. And I LOVE IT!
Today I have the power and capacity and ability and DESIRE to choose LOVE. Love for myself AND for my ex and his new wife. Love sees only Love. Better still, Love FEELS only Love. And loving myself feels a whole lot better than being a victim, or a martyr, or feeling abandoned. Today I love myself enough – to love myself! I know that sounds weird, but it’s true. And when I woke up this morning, I wasn’t consciously feeling “the love” – for myself or for my ex!
But now I do. Now I remember that I can choose how I feel and I can always choose to return to LOVE. And so can you! Regardless of the situation – we can always choose to change our thoughts, change our beliefs, change our perspectives and return to our Sacred Heart!
Man! That’s GREAT news isn’t it?
May you feel the joy of being the love that you are today and every day.
And so it is. : )
I recently read a (very nice and thoughtfully composed) email from my ex, informing me that he is getting married soon to the woman he began seeing just as we separated in July 2009. Our divorce was final the beginning of this year (2010) and as of this writing, we have not been living together for a bit over a year or so now.
And still . . . I had to force myself to breathe. And remind myself to breathe again . . . and again . . .
And I sent an email or 2 to a couple of friends.
And then I left to meet my next appointment.
Because my life is good!
My life is GREAT.
My life just keeps getting better and better. And that’s not bulls_ _t.
My life keeps getting better and better because I CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE to make it so.
I consciously choose the thoughts I think. I consciously decide whether to spend my energy wondering about what was or could have been or whether to put my energy into where I want to GO and to the lovely places I’m visiting along the way.
I consciously choose to create a life of joy, peace and comfort. And I do that by avoiding thoughts, words and actions that are contrary and contradictory to that.
My ex-husband is an excellent example of how easy it is to manifest when you stay focused. He has created a lovely life for himself and I am NOT being facetious (well, ok, half of a half of one percent maybe facetious!). Truly and honestly once we decided to split up, (and probably even before) he spent a great deal of time focusing on exactly what he wanted in his next relationship and virtually no time on what he was leaving behind.
And he met his new wife-to-be almost instantly. BOOM! Instant manifestation.
Yes – that was a little hard to take. But if I raise my perspective a wee bit – I can see the wisdom in that. It’s his path and I honestly and truly 10,000% wish him and his wife-to-be well.
Well just a few days ago (and BEFORE I heard his news) . . . I created my Feng Shui Vision Board™ for the ROMANCE sections of my home. That’s the picture here.
So I’ve already set my intentions.
And all is well . . . .
And getting weller . . .