TODAY’S INNER POWER TIP: If your energy or mood is feeling a bit sluggish, slow or congested — take a 3 minute HEART BATH. Just step away from whatever you are doing — literally move a few steps or into a different room. You can sit or stand or even lay down — whatever feels most comfy — most nurturing — most supportive. Now, close your eyes and picture a giant heart shaped jacuzzi bath tub, filled with bubbles and your favorite scent. Step in . . . the water is THE perfect temperature . . . it is the temperature of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE . . . the energy is soaked up into every cell . . . in the exact amounts that every part of you needs in this moment to feel your absolute, most perfectly aligned, most confident, safe, secure and JOYOUS you!
Just relax for another minute into this bath of 100% pure, unconditional heart love.
And when you are ready, and you feel full, content, confident and have a contented smile on your face, open your eyes. Take a deep breath. Take another one . . . . wiggle your hands and toes.
And step into the infinite possibilities for joy, peace, power and prosperity in your life!
TODAY’S INNER POWER TIP: “Fear is fear, Love is love — they are two COMPLETELY DIFFERENT vibrations! Align with one and you will no longer be a match for the other.”
“You cannot fly when you are dragging an anchor!”
~ The 3 Sisters via Gregory Kompes
While the one writing received this message earlier this week from our “colleagues” known as The 3 Sisters in your world, it is a vital message for all who are reading this.
All of you have anchors that you allow to weigh you down. Sometimes it is a thought of “I’m not good enough”, or “What will they thnk of me if I do that?” or “That’s not possible for me.” Sometimes it is when you create illness to resist the flow of the Greater You that you are becoming. Sometimes it is consciously recognized by its REAL name . . . FEAR.
We shouldn’t really say “real” should we? LOL! There is nothing “real” about FEAR. We like the anagram coined by your 12-step programs which is FEAR = F alse E vidence A ppearing R eal! Fear is simply that Dear Ones. In a land of ever-plenty which is always available to you (and we do not mean your earth but rather the Infinite Universe which always has its door open to you) there is no need for a word or a concept like F E A R.
But in your human world – we understand why you believe it is real.
However, we invite you to step into our “shoes” for a moment and see with our “eyes” . . .
From our perspective, there is nothing to fear because you cannot make a mistake. You cannot get it “wrong” , you cannot “run out of time”. Even those things you would point to like crime, or drugs, or even war serve their purpose on your planet. There is ALWAYS a different perspective to see from if you choose to find it.
Here is our key point.
Do not let your human doubts, fears, worries and concerns keep you from experiencing the life that you chose when you came forth into this time and this space. Find SOME perspective, ANY perspective, that allows you to keep moving forward, expanding ever wider. Be more willing to step into your grace.
You may call it taking a “risk” – but it cannot be defined as a risk if your viewpoint is “I am going to do this thing that I is a bit unusual for me to do but I want to have the joy and the experience of the EXPERIENCE! So however it turns out – I’m doing it for the exhilaration of doing it! I’m doing it to see what it is like! I’m doing it because I’m curious and I want to try something new! So no matter how it turns out I am a winner because I’ve had the experience! I stretched! I jumped! I tested new waters! WOW! What a rush! How Cool! I LOVE THIS!!! ”
Can you see Dear Ones that that is EXACTLY how your Divine Spirit views EVERYTHING you do? That’s what being in human form does for your Spirit – it gives it a container to absorb emotions of all types, physical experiences of ALL types (including illness and so called “handicaps”). Your Divine Spirit does not have the capacity to judge ANY experience as “bad” or “wrong” . . . it just sees the joy and the thrill of being able to have that expansion! It truly is “ALL GOOD” from our perspective!!!
So we say this to you . . . as you go about the business of your daily lives this coming week . . . ask yourself – what would I do today if I REALLY believed I could fly? What step would I take in a direction that makes my heart sing? What thought could I change that might, just maybe, bring a new joyful moment into my life?
Just for a moment, try on the new belief that you cannot FAIL, there is nothing you can do WRONG and that All IS Truly WELL!
Let go of your anchor!
We are filled with absolute sheer DELIGHT as we watch you SOAR!
“If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we are not really living. Growth demands a temporary surrender of security.” ~ Gail Sheehy
However, my INITIAL first thoughts about change contain limiting beliefs that aren’t particularly useful in manifesting some of my heart’s desires! If there are still things on your Dream Wish List, then you probably have some limiting beliefs also – otherwise – according to quantum physics and the Law of Attraction — you’d already have everything on your list (and so would I)!
But not really!
Because, you have the option of creating new beliefs that support growth and support change without kicking in your fight/flight FEAR response! Did you know that?
One of our primal requirements is for security. We are simply wired that way. It’s NOT a bad thing. You just have to know how to work with it and not let it become your prison. When we hold on too tightly to the need to feel secure, as the quote above says, we cannot grow – and growth equals change and vice versa.
But when we become willing to TEMPORARILY surrender our need for security – in order to create and manifest some of that stuff on our Dream List – then we open ourselves up to the Power of the Universe to assist us in creating NEW beliefs, new thoughts and here’s the most important piece . . . new INSPIRED ACTIONS . . . which then result in the new car, the new relationship, the extra bucks in the bank or whatever it is that we’ve been saying we want.
I made a huge personal, self-growth discovery a couple of weeks ago when I “got” during meditation that the predominant belief/thought running my life for several years now has been “Don’t Rock My Boat! I want a smooooooooooooth, ezzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz, ride! Thank you very much!”
As I described it to one of my mentors – I’d been sailing turbulent seas in a rickety boat most of my life and now I’ve chartered a course on nice, calm waters in a relatively comfortable, sturdy little ship and . .
DON’T ROCK MY BOAT (Universe) DAMMIT!!!!!
Once I recognized that belief, I looked back over the past few years and realized I had actually made a conscious decision to create a SMOOTH RIDE and get rid of all the turbulence in my life. And over the past 6 years, I’ve proceeded to do just that! I healed and/or released challenging relationships, I changed careers, I even moved from one country to another – not to mention 3 house moves!
So the good news is that I proved to myself that I can create EXACTLY what I want.
The bad news (but really the even BETTER news) is that now I have to temporarily surrender that security if I want some of the new things on MY Dream List – like a new husband and a more secure income.
If I don’t release my stronghold on “Don’t Rock My Boat” I cannot create NEW movement in my life – aka “change”. So even though “change” isn’t really one of my most favorite words, much less most favorite things to do, I am in the process of becoming willing to create new beliefs so that I will take new actions which will, in turn, ultimately manifest my new heart’s desires!
This week, take a few minutes and ask yourself what you are holding onto that you don’t want to change. Then ask yourself ala Dr. Phil – “How’s that working for you?”
This is your opportunity to determine whether your current beliefs (which may now be past iheir “sell-by” date) are contradicting something else you DO want on your Dream List?
Reclaim your Inner Power by at least entertaining the thought of opening your mind to new beliefs and new possibilities! You are in charge of this ride we call Life! Ask the Universe for exactly what you want/need, open your heart and your mind, and create the life you REALLY want and so richly deserve!!!!!
P.S. As always, I’m here to help you identify the thoughts and actions that are keeping you from what you really want! I invite you to allow change to be easier for you by booking a clarity session with me now. Email me and I will send you a special link for 10% off!
P.P.S. Thanks to the lovely people at The Institute of HeartMath for the quote and photo!
“Follow-Through” . . . . .UGGHHH? or YAY????
I’ll be honest. My first thought when I hear those words “follow-thru” is UGGGGGGHHHHH! BIG TIME!
It comes from years and years of making promises to myself (and others) that I wasn’t able to keep at the time. Wasn’t able because I wasn’t willing. Wasn’t willing because it was either the wrong choice for me at the time or I was too afraid . . . or both!
So . . . “follow-thru” isn’t really a phrase you will hear me use very often.
But right now . . . . “follow-thru” is a critical phrase for me and probably for you too.
Because WITHOUT “follow-thru” it is highly unlikely you will get where you want to go to, no matter how much you say you “want” to.
Follow-thru is about taking ACTION. It’s about DOING not just dreaming. It’s about manifesting into PHYSICAL form because we are spiritual beings who have chosen (this time ’round at least) to have a PHYSICAL human experience.
Follow-thru is about writing this blog post. Not THINKING about writing the blog post. Not WISHING I would write the blog post. Not FLOGGING MYSELF because I haven’t YET written the blog post. It’s about WRITING the bloody blog post!
And the mere act of following-thru with ACTION . . . is the key that unlocks the golden door of manifestation. Because when we ACT, all of the power of the Universe is activated on our behalf. Did you realize that?
The Universe can only match the vibration we give out. If we give out the “I’ll do it later” vibe . . . then we get “I’ll get it later” vibes returned. That’s how the Law of Attraction works. It’s straight quantum physics that part. So “wishing” we’d take that next step forward brings us more wishes and more opportunities to keep wishing!
But actually TAKING the step forward . . . well . . . WOW! . . . that opens up a whole ‘nother Universe . . . literally! It opens up the Universe of Infinite Possibility . . . because in our act of stepping forward, in our ACT of taking ACTion . . . we send out a vibe to the Universe that says “I’m READY! Let’s HIT IT! NOW please!”
And THEN the Universe says . . . . “GREAT! Hold onto your hat! ” . . . .
In our act of DOING instead of wishing or hoping or berating or stalling or whatever word you want to insert there . . . our act of DOING sends out a ripple effect of bringing into physical form that which we are showing our desire for by our ACTion.
Do you get how powerful that is?
Do you get how powerful YOU are?
Do you get that that tiny little wee baby step that feels so f’ing monumental . . . MATTERS? Matters BIG TIME?
And let’s be really clear here! It’s not “which” step you take. It doesn’t matter whether you choose to go forward or backward or left or right . . . the only thing that matters is the DO-ing. WHICHEVER step you take, the forward momentum of your vibration will lead you to the next step . . . and ultimately . . if you keep taking those itsy bitsy teeny weeny little steps . . . ultimately you WILL . . . WIHTOUT A DOUBT . . . manifest what you are seeking OR something even BETTER!
I know the fear can seem awfully real.
I know you can easily fall into the trap of believing False Evidence Appearing Real.
And that’s OK . . . . for a while . . . .
But please, oh please, oh PRETTY PLEASE do NOT let it KEEP you stuck.
Bookmark this post and come back and read it when you notice you are NOT moving forward with whatever it is.
Read it AGAIN to remind you of your TRUTH!
The Truth that you are a Glorious Child of a Loving God. The Truth that JOY is your divine birthright by CHOICE!
The truth of quantum physics and the fundamental principle of the Law of Attraction . . . .
What you think about . . . you bring about . . . and if you are only THINKING it . . . that is NOT a PHYSICAL form . . . DO-ing it makes it a physical reality.
DO ing the little bitty baby step . . . NOW!
Not an hour from now.
Not next week.
Do it NOW because you DESERVE it.
Then do it AGAIN because of how GREAT you feel because YOU DID IT!
DANCE OF JOY!!
And oh please, please share it with us here below in the comments section so we can all celebrate with you. When Joy is shared it multiplies exponentially!
How fun to think of all of us doing the Dance of Joy for everyone who leaves a comment below because they TOOK THE STEP!
This morning, when I first began to awaken from a nice deep sleep (which is rare for me) my first thought was just how tired I was! The bed felt quite cozy and I was definitely NOT ready to get up yet!
Then the mind-chatter began along the lines of:
“Well you BETTER get up because you have that HUGE to do list!”
“How are you EVER going to get all the stuff done on that list feeling this way?”
“Come on girl – just get on with it – you’ve done it before – you know how!”
There was another parallel line of chatter that went along THESE lines:
“Well you could just stay in bed and get the rest you seem to need.”
“Some of that stuff isn’t that important anyway – it can wait.”
“Why don’t you do your meditations and prayers and then see how you feel?”
And there we were – another day at the races! EGO & Critical Parent vs. HIGHER SELF, a disconcerting morning ritual I have allowed to become a pattern. A pattern I decided to RELEASE and CHANGE in 2011. Because it is more about self-hate then it is about self-love and frankly – I’m just plain tired of the self-loathing! Finally!!
So then I begun THIS conversation with myself – this time including God, my guides, angels, and The Universe . . .
“How can I make my life easy and joyful?”
“Please show me how to make my life easy and joyful?”
“Thank you for showing me how to allow my life to be easy and joyful.”
WHAT A CONCEPT eh? It IS how our lives are meant to be you know! I choose to believe that and so now I am having the opportunity to discover where my beliefs are in conflict AND to choose again!!
I was planning on staying in bed a bit longer when I heard the Skype chirp from my office computer and realized it was probably my dear friend checking in before she was off to the hospital to pick up her partner from a pretty serious procedure he was having done. So I dis-engaged from the snuggly covers and headed across the hall to my home office and checked in with her.
After she signed off, I heard the mind chatter begin AGAIN!
“Should we go back to bed?”
– YES! YES! YES! a portion of the crowd roared – including the physical me!
“Should we get dressed and begin the day?”
– Mixed reviews to that – some said YES, come on, let’s get on with it – others were more inclined to head back under the covers, and a few offered up various items on my To-Do list for consideration!
That conversation was being held as I stood in front of my dresser/makeup/jewelry cabinet.
I looked down at it and THIS conversation began:
The critical voice started shouting . . . .
“Look at that mess! You’ve been meaning to clear that up for WEEKS now!” Just like the rest of the house – clutter everywhere!”
Another voice said . . .
“But geesh – we’re SOOO tired and there are soooo many other higher priorities.”
And then . . . .
The Still, Small Voice said . . . .
“What if you just put away those few pieces of jewelry there on the top? And maybe just threw away the little bits of trash that are up there? You could do that couldn’t you? Not really THAT much effort is it?”
Ahhhhhhh . . . . . .
I COULD do that!!! That was NOT too much to do!!
But it sure wasn’t on my agenda for the day AT ALLLLLLLLL!!!!!!! I “should” be doing this, and that, and this and that . . . .and . . . . .
Oh . . . ok . . . just get back to this little tiny task right here . . . in THIS present moment . . .
Oh . . . yes . . . . OK . . . . .
Of course, in 2-3 minutes I could see the top of the furniture again which, of course, also perked up my outlook and suddenly I noticed I was feeling a bit brighter and had a teensy weensy bit more energy also!
So I decided to get dressed instead of going back to bed. Then the dog wanted to go out front so I took her outside and while she played and took care of HER business . . . I decided to do a bit more weeding of the flower bed, a project I began a week or two ago every time I take Lola out. I had pulled up quite a large stack of weeds by the time Lola was done – and again – suddenly noticed that lovely feeling of accomplishment and satisfaction kicking in — though – weeding had NOT been on my agenda EITHER this morning!
Then, a funny thing happened . . .
I realized . . . that my morning prayers, were being answered!
There I was simply going about the day as it NATURALLY progressed (without me pushing, shoving, resisting or forcing) and it was unfolding quite nicely indeed! I wasn’t struggling to choose whether I should do THIS or THAT . . . I just did what was next and before I consciously realized it, the girl who wanted to stay in under the covers – who had no energy – and who couldn’t figure out what to do – was now dressed, had already accomplished two tasks that lifted her spirits, was given the inspiration for THIS article to write (which became the next task btw) and the day is now off to quite a fine start!!!
Don’t you just love it?????
So next time you notice your internal board room having a . . . shall we say . . . “heated discussion” . . . STOP THE TAPE!
Ask the Universe to be the mediator!
Then go do the very next thing that comes into your mind – no matter how trivial or stupid or “off task” the critical mind part of you thinks it is!
No doubt you too may end up pulling up some “weeds” from your day and feeling pretty good about it!
So Christmas has passed and this week people traditionally do some sort of Year In Review process – examining what went right and what went differently than they had had hoped or expected.
As my end of year special gift to you,
I’d like to help you say BYE-BYE 2010
in the Infinite Inner Power way!
Are you ready to harness the powerful Universal energies that are present NOW to release all your negative energy from 2010?
As a result of the confluence of last week’s Winter Solstice, the full Lunar Eclipse, the Full Moon AND Mercury in Retrograde, the planets are aligned and configured in an extraordinary pattern that has not happened for over 300 years! So let’s put ALL that extraordinary ENERGY to good use!
As my gift to you, on December 31st, as the sun sets here in Las Vegas, I will hold a Sacred Burning Bowl Ceremony to release YOUR 2010 and create space FOR YOU to reclaim ALL of your inner power that has leaked, lunged or was swept away despite your best intentions this year!
Here’s the plan to let go of the old and create the new:
1. MAKE A LIST
Make a list of EVERYTHING you want to let go of. This will be stuff that didn’t go well for you this year : a relationship that soured, debt that increased, the hurt feelings because someone said or didn’t say something that you interpreted in a painful way. It could also be physical ailments or conditions.
It could also be getting rid of physical stuff like cleaning out a closet – in which case just DO IT and don’t put it on the list! Even if you only have 30 minutes to clean out a kitchen drawer – DO IT, dump it and/or donate it! Honestly that’s a GREAT start! Physically cleaning out SOMETHING will shift the energy in your physical space and we are always looking to keep energy MOVING!
Now back to the list –
Here’s the top 3 things on my list of letting go: (1) beating myself up about some financial decisions I made; (2) beating myself up because I gained weight this year; (3) beating myself up because my business hasn’t grown further. (Uh do we see a pattern here? Gulp!)
Don’t limit yourself to 3 things – write them all down – 20 or 200 – the more the better because this is an INCREDIBLE opportunity to reclaim your power for 2011. The more you get rid of in the fear, guilt, pain, lack, loss department, the more room you are creating to receive love, light, joy, peace and prosperity!!
Now what to do with the list?
2. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
You had a part to be play in everything on that list. Using my list as an example: (1) I take ownership of the financial decisions I made that I’m unhappy about. I made the best choice I could at the time. In hindsight I have regret over it because I NOW recognize that in some cases I didn’t listen to my own intuition. I created the situations which is a good thing because it also means I have the power to let it go and create differently! (2) my weight gain – well I picked up the fork too many times and for the wrong reasons. Acknowledging that gives me my power back, but continuing to beat myself up about – is no better than picking the fork up again and again.
You get the idea here right? You have to cop that you had a hand in creating the challenges. Even if it was something like an illness or an accident, there was something in your energetic vibration that made you susceptible to whatever happened. You were creating a learning experience for yourself! That’s the good news! Now we want to learn what we need to and MOVE ON!!!!
(NOTE: If you don’t see where you played a part in the situation you can do 2 things: 1) ignore it and choose to release it anyway or (2) send me an email (Steph [at] InfiniteInnerPower.com) so I can help you.)
3. GO THE DISTANCE
There is some added power to the process if you go public with your list. Going public gets it out of your head and more importantly, out of the hands of your ego. At a minimum it’s good to cop to what you want to let go of or are feeling guilty about to a trusted friend, spouse or Spiritual Advisor – that’s where I come in!
Here are some suggestions:
1. Share the list with someone you trust. The other person simply listens and says “Thank you for sharing this with me. I honor and respect your willingness to release these burdens.”
2. Post your list here in the comments section (perhaps not the 200 but the top 20 would be cool!) I will support you as stated in #1.
3. Send the list to me in a sealed envelope marked BYE BYE 2010! I promise I will not look in the envelope if it is marked properly. My mailing address is 2433 E. Tropicana Ave., #455, Las Vegas, NV 89121, U.S.A.
4. Email the list to me at Steph [at] InfiniteInnerPower.com
4. THE RELEASE
As my gift to you, on December 31st, as the sun sets here in Las Vegas, I will hold a Sacred Burning Bowl Ceremony for all of the lists I have received via email, snail mail or posted here on the blog (Nos. 2-4 above). (If you choose to share your list with someone besides me or even just keep it to yourself – that’s cool too of course! Just follow the instructions to below to create your own sacred ceremony.)
The Burning Bowl Ceremony involves moving into a meditative state and placing each of your lists (and mine!) in an appropriate (safe) container (like my BBQ). I will set them alight and as the smoke rises I will speak a prayer into the Universe to the effect that that the energy of your pains, fears and frustrations is transformed, reshaped and returned to you as Inner Strength, Inner Peace and Love for yourself and for humanity. I will remain in meditation until the all of your prayers have traveled by smoke into the heavens.
As the fire dies out I will send a final prayer of thanksgiving and claim your good in YOUR name for YOU!!
[NOTE: if you do your own ceremony you can choose your own words of course, and you can also choose to simply tear up your list, pour water on it, stomp on it, bury it, anything you want to symbolically let go of the energy. Conclude your self-styled ceremony with some words of release – "I release and let this go and know that it is done."]
5. NOW WHAT??
If making the list is easy for you GREAT!
If you are having difficulty with it – please email me:
(Steph [at] InfiniteInnerPower.com) and I’ll help you get over the hang ups.
Over the next few days I will post some other helpful tips about releasing and also about setting your intentions to create a truly magnificent and powerful 2011 for you!
Helping you release the old is my gift to you!
You may also book a session with me at my current PAY AS YOU CHOOSE pricing for the remainder of this year. My pricing will be changing January 1st so this is a great opportunity for you to get a head start on those New Year’s intentions!
Once you choose the session you want HERE, you’ll receive an email with the link to book your appointment. I’ll be giving VIP scheduling (within 24 hrs of receipt of payment whenever possible) this week to help you maximize your willingness to make powerful changes!
OK! Let’s get those lists made and prepare to burn baby burn! Only YOU can make the choice to reclaim your Inner Power NOW!
We humans are complex beings, with many moving parts – both literally and figuratively. In order to experience the maximum amount of joy and peace while we are here, it behooves us to coordinate all those moving parts so they are working harmoniously towards our intentions rather than going off willy-nilly in their own directions all the time.
The parts we are happy about move with relative ease and grace on their own, because they are fueled and coordinated by the love and appreciation we give them. But the parts that we don’t like, or worse yet, the ones we fail to even acknowledge . . . well . . . they can become like poorly behaved children, constantly throwing tantrums to get our attention, being destructive (i.e. addictive behaviors) or causing issues with our relationships, money, and health.
It takes a brave soul to be willing to look beyond the vision in the mirror to see not just what is pleasing to us, but also that which seems too scary, too wounded, too beyond redemption. But that brave soul will be richly rewarded for her courage because to the degree we are willing to see and accept all of our parts, is also the degree to which we can receive and accept love, light and joy into our lives.
Unfortunately, while we hide from and/or try to protect our so-called “dark” sides or “shadow” selves, we also unwittingly shield them from all the good stuff too. Whatever we’ve stuffed in the closet, hidden under the bed, or buried underneath too much food, drink, sex or whatever, does not have the opportunity to receive the blessings that we feel when someone loves us, when we see the exquisite beauty of a sunset, or the sheer joy of our household pet welcoming us home even though we were only gone five minutes.
It also takes an awful lot of energy to hide from and/or protect those unwanted parts! It becomes a 24/7 job! There is no respite! There is no coffee break! There is no vacation! Every minute of every day, of every week, of every month, of every year a part of us stands silent guard watching and waiting to be sure the shadow doesn’t get out or the victim within is not hurt one more time. It is EXHAUSTING!
And perhaps the most damaging consequence of not accepting our dark sides, is that they never have the opportunity to become light – to “grow up” in effect. We become co-dependent “enablers”, adjusting to the wounds rather than seeking out the source of the infection and curing it from the inside out.
These darker parts of us DO powerfully affect our intentions and manifestations as well. Despite our best efforts to keep them from doing so, energetically speaking the force and power of these hidden selves still exist and often show themselves in thwarted attempts to achieve success in our business, or our love life, or our diet/health. While we may not be consciously aware, we are actually acting out ”push-me/pull-you” and often never able to bring into physical form that which we most desire because of our internal power struggles and mixed messages.
Today you can begin to change that by making a simple decision.
Today, you can choose to be brave enough to look in the mirror – that is look all the way THROUGH the mirror. This time though, arm yourself with the love of a battalion of angels by your side, (and/or by whatever Universal Dream Team you choose to call on).
Today, call on your Infinite Inner Power which stands at the ready for you — so you can look just a little deeper and see one part of you that you’ve resisted seeing for oh soo long.
Look at him/her/it through the eyes of your all-loving Divine Spirit. Your Divine Spirit sees only perfection, even when your human eyes see otherwise. Your Divine Spirit has no judgment – it does not have a language of disapproval, dislike, bad or wrong. Shining the light of your Divine Spirit on that “dark” part of you will reveal its true beauty – as an integral piece of the Divine YOU!
You ARE whole, complete and perfect
in the eyes of an adoring Universe!
Today, give yourself the gift of seeing and believing that . . .if only for an instant!
It will be sooo worth it!
God bless you for your courage.
Recently, in meditation, I asked “What is most useful for me to know now?”
The response I heard from my Divine Dream Team (who I respectfully refer to as The Council of The Rainbow Light) was VERY clear: ” RELAX, RELEASE, RECEIVE!”
When we’re all clenched up with tension, stress, emotion, and efforting our energy cannot flow freely enough to receive joy, peace, prosperity. It’s like being stuck on the freeway at rush hour or after a bad accident. You’ll get where you are going eventually, but you’re gonna be stuck for a while until things begin to flow properly again.
However, the good thing about our energy flow is that we have quite a bit of conscious control over it. We can always CHOOSE a more peaceful thought. We can always CHOOSE a more peaceful perspective. Even in the traffic example, for instance, you can choose to bitch and moan about being stuck, or you can use it as an opportunity to send prayers and blessings to every person in every car on that highway. You can be sure that the latter is going to make your journey a lot more pleasant than the former!
Frequently we get so caught up in our daily physical lives that we don’t realize we are “over-cooked”. We just keep going and going like the proverbial Energizer Bunny ™ until we find ourselves run down and completely out of “juice.” That’s not an ideal state for us on ANY level – physical, emotional or spiritual.
When we are depleted on ANY level of our being, it begins a ripple effect to all of the other levels. In the 12-step programs they have an acronym called H.A.L.T. It stands for never get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired, because, those are the most common feelings that lead to dysfunctional behaviors.
Clearly you could also add a few words to that list like Anxious, Fearful, Stressed, Worried and Busy! All of those words ALSO have a tendency to open us to the ego’s perspective – which usually promotes its position that you are “not good enough,” rather than your Higher Self perspective which is ALWAYS that All Is Well and that You are Whole, complete and perfect just as you are.
The point here is that if we really want to allow joy, peace and prosperity into our lives – then we have to make room for it – and we can’t make room for it we are over-busy, over-anxious, over-hungry, etc. Our human bodies just don’t work that way!
You can choose to develop a habit of checking in with yourself. Stop for a minute during the day and ask yourself “what do I need right now to feel peace?” Make it a priority to just take a deep breath and exhale all the stress several times a day. Or picture the Cosmic Wet Vac sucking up all the fear. Or mentally or literally go take a shower– and picture all the busy-ness going down the drain with the water. Any of those practices will give you a chance to allow the energy to flow freely and restore your peace and joy which are pretty much pre-requisites to prosperity!
Go ahead . . . . do it now . . . . even if you think you don’t need it! You sooo deserve it and will undoubtedly feel better for it!
Ahhhhhh . . . feel better right?
Maybe you do and maybe you don’t but I do and I’m finally coming clean about some things that have been going on in my life for over two years now. I’ve written to the wonderful subscribers on my mailing list, and I even posted a Facebook note about part of it, but now I feel it is important to get it all completely in the open and my website/blog is about as open as it gets for me.
There’s several reasons why I think it’s important for me and you to “come clean.” One of the biggies is that secrets only end up hurting us. We can never hide from ourselves – try as we might.
No amount of drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping, food or whatever will ever entirely obliterate the poisonous voices inside that are all too pleased to tell us what worthless piles of you-know-what we are.
I want to line back up with my divinity. And since I’m always talking and writing and coaching about being your authentic self – I gotta finally own up to this stuff in MY OWN mind and maybe my doing that will help you own up to something in YOUR mind that’s been festering and poisoning YOU!
On the scale of dirty little secrets, it’s not a big deal (like Watergate or something) but on MY PERSONAL scale it’s probably around an 8 and it’s been making me feel “less than” for far too long.
It’s only fair to warn you this post is long. In fact it’s very long. I tried to cut it up into a series of posts, but there just didn’t seem to be any good breaking points. So, I’m gonna take the position that if you are meant to read it in its entirety – you will – and if you aren’t – you won’t! I do feel there is some extremely useful lessons in here though and assure you I would not have posted it if it was only to be self-indulgent. I do hope you will read on and hopefully find the information useful and applicable to you.
Here it is – my dirty little secret:
While keeping up the facade to the outside world that I’m a successful business owner, I’ve actually been partially paralyzed with shame believing that I’ve been a complete failure in my business as a business.
There! I said it out loud! And I’m publishing it! And that is a HUGE step in healing for me!
For the whole story to make sense to you though, I need to jump back to February 2008 when I quit my 30 yr career as a Legal Secretary. I had a dream and I believed in the Law of Attraction. I believed that I could do what I loved – which is being of Divinely Inspired service to you and helping you be less fearful, feel more safe and create and allow more love, light, joy and prosperity into their lives – and, in so doing, the money (to pay my bills) would follow.
I thought I could do it my way, the Law of Attraction way, straight up – with an open heart, with cock-eyed optimism and a Pollyana attitude. I WANTED to believe. It felt right in my very soul. And so I proceeded. I set up a website and waited for people to come. And waited. And waited.
Then I began reading and learning about the “right” way to market an online business according to [well-meaning and financially successful] internet marketers. Almost immediately, without even consciously realizing it – I fell down the proverbial rabbit hole into the land I’ll call “U R WORTHLESS.”
It is not a happy land.
It is not a land of freedom.
It is not a land of hope.
It is not a land of joy.
And it CERTAINLY is not a land of “business success”.
It was, however, a land made out of quicksand. The more I “tried” to get myself out – the deeper I sunk. What was really weird and in a way doubly hard for me, was that from a personal development/spiritual growth perspective – I could actually take a helicopter ride from time to time and look down and observe myself struggling – but yet found myself completely powerless to extricate myself from the quicksand.
However, at the same time, it has been a journey of TREMENDOUS personal growth which included ending my 14 yr marriage, selling a house (in the beginning of the real estate crash), buying my new house, renovating it into a home, the death of my Dad (and subsequent fallout from my text-book dysfunctional step-family), my sister’s breast cancer and challenges with my 23 yr old daughter.
Throughout all of that, and to a certain degree understandably so, my business remained in the proverbial dumpster. I had little or no energy for the majority of 2009 to do anything business-wise and so I didn’t. Which is perfectly OK all things considered, especially in hindsight.
But what wasn’t OK – is that despite all of my best efforts, I was unable to FEEL or BELIEVE that it WAS OK — so that all the while I was dealing with all that “personal growth” I was making myself WRONG, WRONG, WRONG for feeling crappy, crappy, crappy and scared out of my wits!
And here’s where I was really out of alignment because during that same period of time, I was teaching and coaching my clients and friends to be loving and kind to themselves! I kinda knew I was out of alignment – but as I stated before – it was like quicksand and I just couldn’t extricate myself for more than a few hours or a few days at a time, if I was lucky!
In September 2009 I decided to take a new approach business-wise and see about developing a local coaching practice rather than doing business via the internet. Here’s another part of my dirty little secret that I never wanted to admit: The truth about that decision is that I was too afraid to try the internet approach again because I was filled with angst at what I judged was my “failure.”
Good for me however, I arranged to have an office with a local holistic wellness spa (highly recommend Angel Blessings Wellness Spa if you are in Vegas!) while providing administrative support to the spa.
From a personal growth perspective, in hindsight again, that was an excellent decision. I began my way up and out of the Land of Less Than and rediscovered some self-confidence not only in my abilities to BE a full-time intuitive spiritual life coach and teacher, but I also rediscovered the exquisite joy of helping and being of service to those who wanted and needed guidance, focus and direction and support! But, it did NOT fill my appointment book with bushels of paying clients – which was part of MY definition of business “success.” And so again and still, I labeled myself a “failure” at business and continued to carry the shame.
Despite my feelings of failure however, in the Spring of this year (2010), I received a GYNORMOUS validation and confirmation from the Universe, delivered by the mailman one afternoon. I opened an enveloped addressed to me and had one of the happiest but most shocking experiences in my life! The envelope contained a lovely note and a HUGE financial windfall from a completely unexpected and highly unlikely source!
My interpretation of the divine message was LOUD and CLEAR and unmistakable: that my beliefs in forgiveness and unconditional love and in LIVING from my sacred heart place (despite the quote unquote “evidence” to the contrary of my “business failures”) – were SPOT ON and here I manifested sufficient financial resources to continue my journey for a while longer – both personally AND professionally. (I do have to say that I had done quite a bit of spiritual manifestion processes about creating money prior to this event!)
And yet, for another several months, I was still unable to make any significant business progress. I concluded my term with the spa which was the right decision at the right time for me but though I kept saying I wanted to get my new website up and running and take another shot at helping people via the internet – I was not taking the ACTIONS necessary to make that happen. I was deeply ashamed, but I didn’t want to admit that to myself, or to anyone else for that matter.
Finally, near the end of October (2010), I was guided to create a 21 Day Business Action Plan with two express intentions. The first was to physically get my new website UP, running and ANNOUNCED to the world, because frankly, I was sick and tired of making excuses to myself and feeling bad about my lack of action.
The second intention was:
“. . . to bring new energy into my business appearing as clear, precise indicators and signs of the next steps for me to take. I choose to be of service in ways that are joyful to me and beneficial to others. I want to do this work for the love of the work and I am now open to receiving money for joyfully doing work I love. As a conscious, specific, focused practice for the next 21 days, I set my intention for my sacred heart to guide me and lead me and stay fully present with me.”
I’m EXTREMELY proud to report that I kept my commitment to myself and completed the action steps! And immediately I began receiving the clear signs of my next business steps just as I intended! This article is evidence of that!
Another part of my dirty little secret however is this: I hate marketing and promoting myself the way the “experts” and “gurus” suggest! It’s taken me the better part of these past two years to figure out that I just CANNOT do it the way “they” suggest. More importantly, it’s taken me all of this time to make that decision AND give myself permission to let that be OK WITH ME!
I kept believing there was something wrong with me that I could not do a lot of the actions suggestioned by the marketing gurus. I tried changing my perspective, clearing limiting beliefs, energy healing, prayer, meditation and everything but standing on my head! But I could not fit my square peg into their round hole!
Do you know that feeling?
I finally became consciously aware of a life-pattern I have of making myself wrong when I don’t fit into someone’s prescribed way of doing things. It “should” have been blatantly obvious given all the spiritual work I’ve done on my childhood, past lives, etc. not to mention all the years of therapy! LOL!
But here’s another valuable lesson for you!
We can’t “get it” until we “get it!” And that’s EXACTLY as it is meant to be. We learn in our own ways and in our own DIVINE RIGHT TIMING! Despite our egos telling us to the contrary that we “should” have learned it faster, better, weller, sooner!
So my secret is out now.
I have tried to keep up a façade of a financially successful business owner and the truth is I am not currently financially successful in my business.
And yet again, maybe I never will be.
Either way is actually OK with me. Truly!
Because I just know, without a shadow of a doubt, that I just need to keep on keeping on being true to myself! Doing what I believe is the best thing for me at any given moment. Doing what is the MOST LOVING THING for me in the given moment. And a lot of that time – that is NOT going to line up with what the “gurus” may have to say.
But I’m finally at peace with all that. And that’s a BIG LESSON for all of us!
We cannot be at peace with ourselves unless we are fully aligned with what is in OUR OWN hearts. Forcing ourselves to align with someone else’s vision is NEVER going to bring us peace. And when we are not at peace, we cannot manifest money, clients, relationships or much of anything else.
So I WAS aligned with being at peace with myself and that is why I DID manifest the financial resources to keep me going!
But I haven’t been at peace with how to” market” my business until now.
Now, I’ve come up with my own standards and my own “rules” – according to guru Stephanie Rainbow and her Master Teachers aka The Universe/God/Divine Spirit. (If you want to read about what those new rules are . . . here’s THAT blog post )
So here’s the bottom line to help you
1. Don’t keep secrets – especially from yourself. Cop to them as soon as you become consciously aware. You just can’t hide forever and besides – why do you really want to? It’s all a game the ego plays in its effort to keep us safe. But our Higher Selves knows better because it doesn’t care about being safe – because it doesn’t have a language of fear attached to it!
2. Don’t try to fit a square peg into a round hole. It’s fair enough to stretch a little to see whether you can change your beliefs, or see things from a different perspective – but know when to say “enough is enough” . . . .if you have to twist yourself into a pretzel to make it fit – then it’s not for you – whatever “it” is. Listen to and TRUST your Divine Guidance. It may not make sense to the rest of the world, but it doesn’t have to!
3. DO follow your heart. Despite what the gurus say, the media says, your parents say/said etc. You and your God are the ultimate authorities in your life! Period! Stay aligned with that and everything will fall into place with grace and ease.
If YOU are ready to be free and have a “dirty little secret” that you are ready to release publicly — please help yourself and probably someone else also (who has the same or similar secret) by putting it in the comments section below. Or, if you prefer, I invite you to email me private at Steph @ InfiniteInnerPower.com.
Thanks for helping me on my journey by reading this and it is my sincere desire that in some way, I have helped you on yours!