November 7, 2010 by  
Filed under Divine Messages, Practical Spirituality

angel cooks helperDear One

This new moon energy is quite a mixed bag of feelings and sensations for you.  We feel your excitement and happy anticipation of new blessings as they expand in the ethers on their way to your physical manifestation.  Yet we also feel the energy of past wounds and longing for change.

And we want you to know that it is ALL good Dear One.  Every bit of it!  What we clap our hands in glee about watching you, is your willingness to HAVE the experiences!  Especially of late we notice how you are purposefully stepping out into new venues, new activities and all for the most part with hopeful anticipation of discovering something wonderful.

This is a lovely path to be on Dearest because it holds the vibration of the future while still acknowledging the gifts of the present.  It says “I am here right now and this is an OK place to be AND I am also ready to receive new, exciting and interesting gifts and treasures.”  You can feel the energy of that bubbling and simmering in a big pot with orgasmic aromas emanating from the pot – just like when you are cooking some magnificent creation on your stove.  You know that it takes time for all the flavors to meld together and create a dish that is greater than the sum of its individual ingredients . . . that you stir in love, and joy and excitement about how delicious it will be not just to taste yourself, but to share with others that you love.

That my dear earth angel is what your vortex looks and feels and smells like from our perspective right now.  It is soo full of goodness and yumminess and sweetness and light.  It’s simmering and carmelizing and infusing with love and light, just waiting for that EXACT moment when it is PERFECT and everything is divinely aligned, ready to be served up to you!  We assure you that it is very close to that moment right now.

And we suggest to you Dear One that you continue to stir the pot ever so gently from time to time.  Take the lid off and breathe in the heady aromas of your heart’s desires about to manifest, know with every fibre of your being how much you will enjoy the perfect outcome – the great joy, the great gratitude, the great pleasure in the sharing of your bounty.

It is SOOO perfect Dear One.  And All is SOOO very well!

We are so excited for you!

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LETTING GO – Relationships

November 6, 2010 by  
Filed under Practical Spirituality, Relationships

So what do YOU do when you get news that’s a bit hard to take on the first swallow?

I recently read a (very nice and thoughtfully composed) email from my ex, informing me that he is getting married soon to the woman he began seeing just as we separated in July 2009. Our divorce was final the beginning of this year (2010) and as of this writing, we have not been living together for a bit over a  year or so now.

And still . . . I had to force myself to breathe.  And remind myself to breathe again . . . and again . . .

And I sent an email or 2 to a couple of friends.

And then I left to meet my next appointment.

Because my life is good!

My life is GREAT.

My life just keeps getting better and better.  And that’s not bulls_ _t.

My life keeps getting better and better because I CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE to make it so.

I consciously choose the thoughts I think.  I consciously decide whether to spend my energy wondering about what was or could have been or whether to put my energy into where I want to GO and to the lovely places I’m visiting along the way.

I consciously choose to create a life of joy, peace and comfort.  And I do that by avoiding thoughts, words and actions that are contrary and contradictory to that.

My ex-husband is an excellent example of how easy it is to manifest when you stay focused.  He has created a lovely life for himself and I am NOT being facetious (well, ok,  half of a half of one percent maybe facetious!).  Truly and honestly once we decided to split up, (and probably even before) he spent a great deal of time focusing on exactly what he wanted in his next relationship and virtually no time on what he was leaving behind.

And he met his new wife-to-be almost instantly. BOOM! Instant manifestation.

Yes – that was a little hard to take.  But if I raise my perspective a wee bit – I can see the wisdom in that.  It’s his path and I honestly and truly 10,000% wish him and his wife-to-be well.

And me?

Well just a few days ago (and BEFORE I heard his news) . . . I created my  Feng Shui Vision Board™ for the ROMANCE sections of my home.  That’s the picture here.

So I’ve already set my intentions.

And all is well . . . .

And getting weller . . .

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Yogi & Pizza

November 5, 2010 by  
Filed under Friday Funnies

Q.   What did the Yogi say when he walked into the Zen Pizza Parlor?

A.   “Make me one with everything.”

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November 1, 2010 by  
Filed under Divine Messages, Practical Spirituality

Dear One –

You and many others – including many of your friends – are experiencing a big shift energetically. This shift is bringing things up into your conscious awareness that will be of great benefit to the individual and in turn to humanity as it is shared thru the healing and teaches of you and your colleagues.

The light vibration of your circle – and others – is very high and much needed. We encourage each of you individually and collectively to continue to engage in activities and inventions that bring you much joy. The vibration of joy carries with it bio particles of Light that are like tiny powerful explosions – infusions of love, peace, joy and hope – that will shower out upon all of those that each of you come in contact with and ripple out further as those people then connect with their families, friends and loved ones. This collective energy is very powerful. Each of you carry a component that when gathered together, synergistically expands exponentially.

As an individual – continue to focus on the expansion of your intentions – noticing where your actions are out of alignment with specific intentions and setting the intention to bring all of your actions into alignment with manifesting your highest love, light, prosperity and joy.

This is, indeed, a unique and special time for all of you who are open to its wisdom and willing to implement the actions that will spring forth from your inspirations. Do not miss this boat Dear Ones!


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October 29, 2010 by  
Filed under Friday Funnies

Q:  Why was the lady ghost so angry with her plastic   surgeon?

A: She didn’t like her new BOO-b job



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October 26, 2010 by  
Filed under Overcoming Fear

Yes, I know the simple answer would be ME of course!  But let’s go a little deeper.

I had an experience today where I thought it was me, the 56 year old spiritual coach, teacher, mom, friend, etc who was shopping in the rock store (looking for crystals that might help me sleep more soundly and consistently).

But when I looked at it a little closer, with the help of my fellow spiritual teacher and good friend, I realized that while the grown-up me was certainly present and had also made the choice on the stones and paid for them, there was another little girl part of me that was quite “thrown” by the whole experience.

The rock store had a lot of energy to it – for those of you who know about these things – you know what I mean . . . and for those that don’t . . . well  . . . everything has energy and certain rocks, stones, crystals have VERY strong vibrations which is why they are frequently used by healers.

What was interesting for me today was to recognize a familiar pattern – that being – that when my energy gets “overwhelmed” or “confused” . . . I “read” it as DANGER.

Yup.  I do.

And when my friend questioned me about that . . . I told her how as a child, my lawyer-through-and-through-father was VERY insistent that every response to every question or situation be logical.  He valued logic and discarded feelings so I was taught from my youngest memories to come up with logical responses to any question or situation and if I didn’t . . . there was usually a price to pay.

So as a child, how that affected me emotionally (among other ways) was that I would get scared if I encountered situations or questions that I couldn’t explain logically.  I would be scared of being punished – which I was regularly – sometimes In a rather draconian way and sometimes just a “normal” punishment – but almost always a punishment.

But I hadn’t identified, until today, the connection for me of “overwhelm” / “confusion” to “danger” and what that means is that for an awful lot of times over many years, I’ve been letting my inner child call the shots!

That’s OK of course – if I could have done better I would have done better but I couldn’t so I didn’t.  But here’s the really good news .  .  .

Now that I KNOW . . . I can definitely do “better” . . . .

And better for me will be to have more conscious awareness the next time I feel confused or overwhelm.  I can then remember that I am now a grown woman and no one is out there to punish me except for me! J  And hopefully I will choose NOT to continue THAT particular pattern of abuse!

So that’s the lesson in this post.

Next time you feel yourself reacting fearfully . . . see if you can catch yourself and ask yourself “how old am I emotionally right now?”  If you get an answer similar to mine . . . about being a child . . . then see if you can follow that through and ask what does that remind you of in your childhood.

Remember,  what you are looking for here isn’t to beat yourself up or your parents or whomever raised you.  What you are looking for is to take your power back and act from the powerful adult that you currently are, while having some compassion and understanding for that part of you.

As another dear friend frequently says . . . awareness precedes consciousness . . . so realize what a real gift it is to become aware of these previously hidden triggers and give yourself a big pat on the back for it!

Remember also – no emotions are all “bad” or “good” . . . . but recognizing what you are feeling and WHY can empower you to make a different choice next time.

And I’m all for having POWER and multiple choices! : )


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October 26, 2010 by  
Filed under General, Practical Spirituality

“Dump the junk! Whether it’s physical junk or emotional junk . . . it’s time to let it go! Create the space for the magnificent!”

When I posted that status update recently on FACEBOOK it got quite a few comments and “likes” which indicates to me that we all have quite a bit of junk to dump eh?

As I mentioned in the quote – we tend to hold on to both physical junk and emotional junk but the root cause of both is frequently overwhelm, at least for me.  It takes some time and attention to keep things “tidy” so that the junk doesn’t accumulate and I, for one, sometimes am just too “busy” to give the time and attention to that task.

(Which brings up another interesting point – but perhaps for another post – about how we can make ourselves busy and overwhelmed as a distraction to become our greater selves . . .  but I’ll just leave it there for the moment.)

One of the best techniques I ever learned for not accumulating emotional junk is a process they teach in 12-step programs like Alcoholics Anonymous.  It’s called “inventory” and the long version involves making a list of all the things you feel you’ve done “wrong”, including people you have hurt, etc.  It’s a bit more complicated than that and you are welcome to email me or Google for further information, but for the purpose of THIS post, I want to share with you the abbreviated, daily version of this process.

This is a perfect process to do before going to sleep because it really clears your head!  You can do it written or unwritten, but frankly, there is ALWAYS power when you put a pen to paper – it shouldn’t take you more than 5 minutes or so.

So start by dividing the paper in half lengthwise.  You can just fold it in half.  On the left side make a list of all the things that you feel you did “wrong” for the day.  It could include stuff like “didn’t make my bed”, “yelled at my kid”, “forgot to send a birthday card to Auntie X” . . .  What you write doesn’t matter – and if it is floating around your head in a negative way – better to write it down than leave it to swirl around and collect “negative” dust bunnies around it!

When you have the list done go back to Item 1 and on the right hand side of the page . . . make amends.  Most often that is going to mean a statement like . . . “I forgive myself for not making my bed.”  Or “I’ll apologize to my kid tomorrow or give him/her an xtra treat tomorrow.”  Again, it doesn’t really matter what you write, or HOW you decide to make amends . . . what matters is that you recognize you are HUMAN, that you recognize that everyone else is ALSO human, and that you don’t carry today’s concerns into tomorrow.

If you come across an item that you really don’t know how to rectify  — that’s the perfect time to turn it over to your Higher Power.  Just put “God you take this one!” next to it!  And actually, that’s how I end my list always.  I write “Thank you God for taking care of everything and everyone on this list for the Highest Good of All Concerned.”  Amen.

Now if you REALLY want to feel good when you wake up in the morning . . . take an extra 3 minutes and on the back of the piece of paper, make a list numbered 1 to 10.

On each line list something you are GRATEFUL for today.  Like how much you LOVE that kid, and how grateful you are to HAVE a bed to sleep in.  I encourage you to add to the list – the longer the better . . . but do at least do 10 things.

Then lay your head on your pillow, put a smile on your face, feel the love in your heart and go nighty-night.  The angels are watching over you and your loved ones and all is well . . .


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October 26, 2010 by  
Filed under General, Overcoming Fear

I’m sorry I’m too chicken to go take a picture of this guy hanging from the dining room ceiling as I write. I have NEVER been a fan of spiders or bugs but as I’ve gotten older and continued on my spiritual path, I can honestly say that I do look on them as another of God’s creatures and I do my best to honor their lives and their purpose here on the planet.


And I’ve already called the exterminator (who can’t come for 2 hours), and my ex-husband (who always handled spider duty during our marriage with his bare hands but now is afraid this one might be poisonous), and my handyman who is already 45 minutes on the other side of town half way up Mt. Charleston for the day.

I’m holding out for the pool man . . . who should be due here within the next hour or so. I wasn’t happy when he changed his route and made my house earlier on his schedule . . . and so he modified the route slightly so he gets here a bit later . . . and right now . . . I’m thinking . . . why the HELL did I EVER ask him to do THAT! Get over here and get over here NOW with your big pool skimmer net and get this beast out of my DINING ROOM NOW please!

OK . . . .

So . . . I’m breathing . . . and I’m remembering my power . . . great powerful creator and manifestor that I am . . . HOLY CRAP I MANIFESTED THE BIGGEST HAIRIEST SPIDER I’VE EVER SEEN IN MY HOUSE BEFORE!

OK . . ..

Back to breathing . . . I’m a powerful creator . . . I’m protected and adored by a loving Universe . . . . I’m safe . . . .


Breathing . . . . writing . . . . remembering my purpose . . . . remembering who I TRULY am (and that would NOT be a wimpy, overweight woman 10,000 times the size of the BIG FAT HAIRY SPIDER HANGING FROM MY DINING ROOM CEILING that wants to seal herself into her office until the BIG BAD SPIDER has been taken somewhere else to live that is NOT IN MY HOUSE!).

OK . . yes . . who I truly am . . . a Glorious Child of a Loving God . . . Whole, Perfect and Complete. With the power to choose the thoughts I think . . . the power to choose calming thoughts . . . . the power to make CONSCIOUS choices . . . . like BREATHING . . . and remaining grounded . . . and not going sssspuuuttter around the room like a blown up balloon that just got untied as it has one magnificent ride before it ends up in a heap on the ground.

In the last 18 months I’ve been through a separation, a divorce, the sale of a house, my Dad dying unexpectedly, some heavy (read “dysfunctional”) family “stuff”, the purchase of a new house, the renovation of a new house, major changes in my business, and countless other “opportunities for spiritual expansion” . . .. but . . . now . . . a BIG FAT HAIRY SPIDER HANGING FROM THE CORNER OF MY DINING ROOM threatens to undo my inner peace.


Really Steph?

Are you REALLY gonna let this guy get the better of you? After all that? After all the tears? After all the prayers? After a gazillion exercises in re-framing? After re-scripting countless memories? After countless hours on the phone with amazing supportive friends? After hours and hours in church services being gently (and not so gently) reminded of your Divinity? After even more hours of listening to CDs to clear your chakras, clear your mind, restore peace, learn new breathing techniques, meditate, received channeled messages?

Really Steph?



It’s JUST a Big Hairy Spider Hanging From My Dining Room Ceiling.

It does NOT have control over me.

I am the Master of my Domain.

I have dominion over my state of mind.

It IS a choice.
It IS a choice.
It IS IS IS IS a choice DAMMIT!

So guess what Big Hairy Spider?

You just hang there for a little while longer while I go ahead and continue with my day. Because I know I have an army of angels watching over me. I know I have my spirit guides to show me the way to joy and peace. I know that being afraid of you is only a story I tell myself and I can tell a different story.

I know that I can allow you to be a distraction or I can allow you to be an opportunity to remember, ONCE AGAIN, who I truly am.

To BE that Glorious Child of an Adoring Universe.

And you know what Big Fat Hairy Spider?

You have the right to be exactly who you are . . .

And . . .

I have the right to be me . . ..

And I do not have to give you my power.

Or my light . . . .


And guess who just pulled up out front? Yup! The pool guy, Kevin!


And now, 2 minutes later, spider has been deposited out into the side yard . . . hopefully to find a more suitable abode.

And me . . . .

Well . . . . I have to admit . . .

I’m breathing a bit easier . . . .

But I’m also pretty proud of myself . . . .

Because I WAS honestly and truly scared.

But I made it through it.

Again . . . .

And so will you . . .

when the next time comes that you cross paths with your version of a big fat hairy spider . . . .


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May 4, 2010 by  
Filed under Overcoming Fear

I was thinking recently about a project I needed  to complete some time ago and I really wanted to get it “right.”  I also wanted to get it done FAST because I realized I had been procrastinating. Too bad I didn’t also realize that it wasn’t the Voice of Love I was hearing in my head . . . I had unwittingly tuned my mind into Radio E G O (Edging God Out).

However, in an effort to get moving, I remembered a tip I had read from Laura West of The Center For Joyful Business – about getting out of the house when you are feeling stuck. Since I was aware part of the issue was not feeling very good about myself, I wanted to choose somewhere I could reconnect with my true Divine Spirit. So I headed to one of my fave places, the lobby bar of the Ritz-Carlton Lake Las Vegas with an Abraham CD playing in the car for the 25 minute ride.

It being early and mid-week I had my pick of tables and I chose one right by the window with a stellar view of the mountains, lake and gardens. I settled in and got to work.

Except for one thing.

The “work” part.

Not happening.

I fiddled with my new phone, checking Twitter to see if I had any tweets from my peeps. No tweets and no inspiration either. (SIDENOTE: you DO know about Twitter don’t you? If not check it out at and follow me – I’m @SpiritCoach.)

So I prayed. I asked for clarity, focus and direction for the Highest Good of All Concerned. I wrote a little but still no major flow was happening. I was grateful for the distraction when a new friend called.

Although we had never spoken on the phone before, we got along famously and an hour later, I was inspired, relaxed and finished the project easily and confidently. I thought GREAT – I’m done, I feel good, no worries, I’ll send it off as soon as I get home.


Somehow, I managed to continue distracting myself until I finally realized that once again, F E A R (False Evidence Appearing Real) had sneeked back in the door along with another too familiar acquaintance – Below The Basement Self-Esteem. Both were playing on the media player of my mind on a non-stop loop with the volume turned all the way up! AGAIN!

I went to sleep setting my intention to work through this and change my thoughts. During the night I woke up and realized I had just DREAMED I hit my first BIG business milestone. IN THE DREAM I remember thinking WOW — this is fantastic — and (still in the dream) thinking isn’t it ALSO INTERESTING how much better I feel about myself NOW (that I had achieved the “big” success). In that moment of recognition – I was able to RE-CONNECT CONSCIOUSLY with the FEELING of being proud and excited (which had been rather desperately eluding me).

At first — when I realized it was “only” a dream — I started to get bummed – until I realized — I HAVE already achieved the “big” milestone — it just hasn’t MANIFESTED in this time and space reality yet! Well THAT realization really helped change my emotional “charge” around the situation and I fell back asleep.

Unfortunately when I woke up, I still wasn’t feeling motivated enough to complete the damn project! So, in an effort to re-charge and re-new the successful feeling, I purposefully reviewed my files for encouraging words from the assortment of quotes/prayers I collect. I found the following from Neale Donald Walsch:


Now THAT — coupled with my memory of the dream — really gave me the courage I needed to get the project finished once and for all.

I went back and CAREFULLY re-read the instructional emails about the project and realized that I had read the emails through the eyes of fear. Now, through the eyes of Faith, I discovered that I had missed two key components in the instructions. One of them was an MP3 that COMPLETELY EXPLAINED the project and answered the many questions that I had running through my head! Not only THAT but the responses given were the same ones I had INSTINCTIVELY come up with ON MY OWN in my efforts to complete the task.

I decided to take that as a “God-sign” and a little while later that puppy was out the door and off my To-Do list!

The experience contained powerful lessons for me:

First – the fear had manifested in many ways – including my mistaken belief that I was “running out of time” or “on a tight deadline.” My mentor had not given me a deadline – it was all made up in my own mind. There is never any hurry in God’s time anway! If I had taken the time to CAREFULLY read the instructional emails – I would have realized there were TWO audios, listened to them in sequence and most likely saved myself a good deal of hassle!

Second – there is no such thing as getting it “right” or “losing” in the eyes of a loving God. As Neale Donald Walsch so elegantly stated: “. . . losing is not an act of God, it is a thought in the mind of humans.” WHAT I wrote for the project, wasn’t nearly as important as WRITING it period.

Third – and probably most critical for me and possibly for you as well – low self esteem is ALSO a man-made proposition. I believe we are all Glorious Children of a Loving Mother/Father God, that we were declared very precious and valuable at birth, and that He NEVER changes his mind!

And here’s the last little bit of irony for you – after rushing, struggling and generally making myself miserable about the project – when I finally emailed it off – I got an auto-response back stating that my mentor’s scheduling assistant was on vacation for 2 weeks and my mentor was away from the office as well for several days!

But now I’m fine with that. Now I know it’s all in Divine Order and Right Timing.

And ALL IS WELL indeed.


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YOUR THOUGHTS: Don’t Take Them Personally!

May 2, 2010 by  
Filed under Law of Attraction

You are always molding yourselves into a better feeling place. And you will never get it done. It will never be completely finished. It will never be absolutely right. You will always have some dominant thoughts that are not a vibrational match to the newfound desire.

But that is always what your work is.

And it’s time for you to just begin relaxing about it, and not make it a personal issue of your own valor, or your own value, or your own integrity. In other words, it’s just, how many times have I thought this thought?

— Abraham


Did I need to hear THAT this morning! : )

How many times a day do you beat yourself up because you recognize a thought that is not of a high vibration?   Even as I write that I realize how silly it is, yet I confess! I do it A LOT!

So many times in life it is not about the vibration or the thought or the incident itself — it is about the JUDGMENT we put on it — and usually with a giant NEGATIVE spin!

What if for the next 24 hours we just allowed ourselves to recognize our vibrations, our thoughts, make a choice perhaps to change the thought if it is not bringing us joy, AND NOT JUDGE THE THOUGHT OR OURSELVES as WRONG for having it?

What if? : )

Would love to hear your experiences and comments! : )


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